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“I Don’t Need to Know the Details”: When Silence Serves Everyone Except the Survivor
Content note: This article discusses sexual violence and childhood abuse. It does so deliberately. If parts feel uncomfortable to read, that discomfort is central to the argument being made.⸻The Sentences Survivors RememberOver the years, I have repeatedly heard...
Dr Naomi: what I learned working in prison
A prison might sound like a strange place to learn about the victims of crimes. But in prison, I came to understand more than I ever expected about the sexual abuse of boys—and what it costs men to carry those experiences into adulthood. For almost thirty years, I...
Joseph’s story
‘What Was Hidden — and What I Found Instead’ I am writing this as a male - I am going to deliberately talk about being a boy and a man and not as a generic ‘child’ or a person. Only as a man, because I believe our challenges and perspectives are unique. This is all...
Tobi’s story
I drifted into awareness to find him hovering over me. Leering down at me. Waiting to pounce upon me. My body was tied to the bed with wires and tubes. He stared hard at me, making me feel that I’d inadvertently annoyed him. Made him angry with me. I wondered how he’d...
Rafael’s story
Rafael Viola is a survivor of institutional abuse, a dedicated whistleblower, and a published author whose life story stands as a testament to resilience in the face of systemic neglect, violence, and cover-ups. He has courageously transformed his lived trauma into...
Andy’s story
Andy Woodward: Position of Trust: The Silent Battle and the Power of Speaking Out…. As a child, I had a dream. A dream so pure, so full of hope, that it became the very essence of who I was. I wanted to play football, to feel the grass beneath my boots, to hear the...
Daniel’s story
For much of my life (teens and twenties) I had suffered/exhibited high risk behaviour, this was exacerbated by my time in the military and security, I was plagued with angry out-bursts, self sabotage, self hatred, self loathing, drinking, fighting, suicidal ideation,...
Pedophiles Know Dissociation…Do You?
Much of society is not educated in one very important aspect of child abuse. Yet this one aspect is at the heart of years of undisclosed incest, child porn, child couriers for drugs and other forms of child exploitation. Many children targeted for such activity grow...